Adoptee Abuse, and Agency Parent Preparation
I have always wondered what the process is like for prospective adoptive parents. I’ve heard stories from parents, but how prepared are these agencies? How prepared are they to discuss issues such as abuse, race, stereotypes, etc. etc.
I wonder because I know agencies are NOT adequately equipped to assist parents in understanding these things prior to adoptions. I know that it varies from agency to agency. But I also wonder what sort of background checks really go into these placements. For the most part, I would like to believe that these agencies have experienced and well trained social workers who put a lot of time and consideration into deciding whether a family is right for a child. However, there are some who slip through the cracks. But it’s unacceptable, and as you are about to see, it can lead to some of the most despicable acts.
When I read this article it devestated me, it angered me, and it made me think about all the adoptees who have suffered at the hands of their adoptive parents. Recently I noticed a post on the K@W listserv that an adoptee was working on a panel dealing with abuse in adoptive families. I know it happens, but to what extent? I want to warn you before reading this how awful this is. Although it’s a short piece, it is a sharp warning that these types of people SHOULD NOT fall through the cracks when placements are being made.
Who is responsible for these children after they are in the hands of their parents. I mean, when children are “troubled” (and I hate using that word but I will for this purpose only), parents can go to their adoption agencies and say “look my kid needs help, what can we do?” When an adoptee is being abused, what resources do they have? Who can they turn to? It’s not the adoption agency, it’s not their parents…If it wasn’t for the school guidance counselor who would she have turned to for help?
Take a look at the article from the Seattle Times: