Birth Mom Count Down
It’s official, I will be meeting my birth mom on June 18th at 2:00pm. And I have to say I’m getting more nervous every day. The initial excitement is definitely still there, but it’s this fear of the unknown. Who knows what I’ll find out about my birth family, and who knows what they’ll think of me?
I wish I could stay longer but it’s not in the cards for this trip. But I know there will be chances to see her again. Part of me knows that when I get there and meet her I’m not going to want to leave. I also don’t know if she will be coming alone or with family. I’m guessing she’ll be alone just because I don’t think she’s told the rest of her family yet and it’s likely that it will take a little while for her to figure out how to do that.
The last puzzle I have left to figure out is what to get her as a gift. Some people have said that a photo album is good. I will definitely bring that, but besides that I have no idea what to get her. It’s like, I want something that will be meaningful to her. But I don’t know her! I don’t know what she likes, how she thinks etc. Some adoptees have said “be ready for money from your birth mother.” I know that is a possibility, but I will feel horrible if it is the case. And yes I know, it would be rude for me not to take it, but it just doesn’t sit well with me.
Anyways, I’m looking for gift suggestions from other adoptees. Anyone had positive experiences with certain types of gifts, or have thoughts on what I should bring?
My last question is how I should document my trip. Like I said, it will be a very short trip-literally a few days, no joke! I don’t want to video tape it, but should I bring a digital recorder? Is that ok, would that be rude? I just don’t want to miss a single thing. I want to keep a record of it and possibly have someone help me translate it if possible. Has anyone done this sort of thing before? I know some decide to make documentaries, some are more public than others. But is this something I should consider doing?
Thanks for your thoughts! -GS