More Shouts for film ‘Resilience’

30 07 2007

 Hi all – Just thought I’d forward another note I received in regards to the film ‘Resilience.’  It’s the first documentary to ever depict the stories of Korean birth mothers.  Feel free to donate or contact them for more details.  -G.S.

Dear friends:

I am writing to request your support for the making of Resilience,
the first-ever documentary film to tell theKorea’s birth mothers.
Please take a minute to read why this project is significant and how
you can be a part of it.

In Resilience, Korean women come out of the dark and break their
silence about the struggles of being single mothers in Korea and the
pressures from their society to give up their children.

For the first time, adoptees and families can view overseas adoption
from a different perspective.

I am a Korean American adoptee and when I read the stories of the
women in this film, it was the first time my birth parents, whom I
still have never met, became real to me.

Maybe my birth mother is nothing like these women, but now I have a
better understanding of the life she had, the environment I was born
into and the complicated system I was adopted through. This is the
kind of film I wish I had seen a long time ago, which is why I was
eager to help in the making of it and I hope you are too.

We are making and funding this film independently, which can be the
most difficult part in filmmaking. We’ve been able to complete a
short version of the film, but still have a lot of work to do and
have a long way to go in raising the necessary funds to finish the
film. We need your help in bringing this important film to
completion.

By contributing to this film you are helping to bridge cultural gaps
adoptees and their birth parents often struggle to get over. There
are millions of adoptees and people affected by adoption worldwide
that will greatly benefit from seeing this film.

Any assistance you can give is greatly appreciated, whether it be
$10, $1000 or anywhere in between and beyond. Every little bit
counts. All contributors will be credited as sponsors in the film
and will be the first to be notified of screenings and project
updates. All donations made in the U.S. are 100% tax-deductible.

I urge you to donate now and help these women be heard. And please,
spread the word to anyone who may be interested in supporting this
significant project. Resilience is the first film about Korean
overseas adoption from the perspective of the families left behind.

Thank you so much for your time and attention. For more information,
please contact me or go to: http://www.myspace.com/resilience_doc

Sincerely,

Jessica Windt
Project Manager

P.S. Contributions of any amount or type are welcomed. Please spread
the word!

Donations can be made online at Women Make Movies official website:
http://www.wmm.com/filmmakers/sponsored_projects.shtml

*VISA or Mastercard accepted. Please disregard quantity & shipping
information.

Or contact me at: resilience06@gmail.com

All donations made in the U.S. are 100% tax-deductible by law.
Resilience is fiscally sponsored by Women Make Movies (
http://www.wmm.com/ ), a non-profit, New York City-based film
distribution organization for films made by and about women.

A short version of Resilience has been previewed at both the 2006
KAAN (Korean American Adoptee Adoptive Family Network |
http://www.kaanet.com/ ) and 2006 G.O.A.L. (Global Overseas Adoptee
Link | http://goal.or.kr/ ) adoptee conferences.

Resilience is directed & co-produced by Tammy Chu |
chu.tammy@gmail.com | (+82) 19-9743-4344

Produced by KoRoot (http://www.koroot.org) contact: Reverand Do-hyun
Kim | master@koroot.org





NPR’s ‘Adoption in America’ Series

25 07 2007

NPR’s ‘Adoption in America’ Series

Just thought I’d drop in with this pretty large series that NPR has undertaken on adoption. It’s a range of stories from Indian, and Korean transracial transnational adoptees, and even one domestic transracial adoption story.

The series is broken down into an Intro, followed by three Parts, all of which are stories from either adoptees or adoptive parents.

I’m not completely sure I agree with the ways in which NPR has framed some of these stories, yet I do think it’s good that there is still media coverage.

Hopefully I’ll have some more time to give more of these stories some thought, but for now just take a look, and take a listen. In some ways I think there is a bit of an agenda in the ways the stories were put together, but I suppose I’m more of a conspiracy theorist at heart so feel free to form your own conclusions.  ;)   –G.S.

Adoption in America

In a series of conversations, four families and adoptees reflect on their experiences with adoption, and share the stories that define who they have become.

 

 

in this Series

 

Adoption in America: A Series Overview

July 23, 2007 · An adopted child changes a family forever. Families and adoptees have learned that it’s not just family photos that change — but entire family trees, family traditions and family stories that are altered by an adopted child’s own story.

 

 

Part 1: Mother, Son Offer Transracial Adoption Insights

July 23, 2007 · When Judy and Bob Stigger decided to adopt nearly three decades ago, they chose children who very obviously didn’t look like them. The white couple adopted two children who are biracial, a decision that meant a lifetime of learning for their family. Web Extra: Advice for Adoptive Parents

 

 

Part 2: An Adoption Gone Wrong

July 24, 2007 · After adopting two sisters from India, David and Desiree Smolin were shocked to learn that the girls’ birth mother had been tricked into giving them up. The Smolins say their experience reveals the dark side of international adoptions.

 

Part 3: A Korean American Reflects on Life as an Adoptee

July 25, 2007 · When Susan Cox was adopted from South Korea, she was quickly Americanized by the Oregon couple who became her parents. Now, more than 50 years later, Cox says, there is more awareness about maintaining a connection to adopted children’s native cultures.





KAAN Conference

23 07 2007

Thanks to all who attended this year’s KAAN Conference in Cambridge, MA this year. It was great getting to know many of you, and thanks to those who attended my workshop with BKA.

There’s been a lot of progress, yet still much to be done. There were some great workshops, and I suppose I’m the most interested in the teen dialogue with adult adoptees. Although I’m afraid the dialogue may have become a conversation for the adult adoptees, I think that the younger generation showed that these sort of gatherings are helpful and healthy.

There is so much to say about the ways in which we as transracial adoptees have been raised. Many of us have grown up in predominantly white neighborhoods blinded by whiteness and with it gain a spectrum of socioeconomic privilege and standards of beauty. This much is clear, and for the adoptees in the room today, although you may have just been warming up as the workshop came to a close (if any of you are reading this) I think you may find yourself nodding your head. I completely identify with this upbringing and while it brought back a deluge of emotions, it angers me to see yet another generation of adoptees are growing up with many of the same feelings I had at the same age. It’s a constant reminder that as much as people like to think racism and racial prejudice are on the way out of society, they continue to exist for adoptees who in many ways are socially isolated from the tools to form healthy identities as Asians, Asian-Americans, Korean-Americans etc. etc. And this is not to say that any adoptee should completely fit neatly into these sort of categories, but many adoptees grow up with no sense that they exist as an extension of the Pan-Asian American Diaspora.

And while many parents claim they have provided these resources and their children are simply not interested, it’s no wonder when any adolescent only wants to fit in. So if a majority of students in a high school are white, it’s no wonder they are not willing to consider themselves anything else but who they see and interact with on a day-to-day basis. I don’t want to alienate a-parents in this, but I simply want to make clear that I think this is a consideration that should be heard. Had I grown up in a highly diverse area perhaps I would have wanted to learn more about Korean culture, or learn the language at an early age. If there is no diversity it’s hard for any person who is an outsider in any regard to voluntarily want to be unique for who they are. So many of us grow up in predominantly white communities isolated from other people of color and so many of us grow up with these very same internalized oppressions that we attempt to fit in by straying away from anything Asian/Asian American. Why should we want to go to Korean culture camp if fitting in means being an American with our mostly white friends? Why should we want to learn the Korean language if there is no one to practice with at school or at home? More importantly we should be asking ourselves ‘Why haven’t we been raised in communities where it’s ok to be unique?’  In deciding how to raise an adoptee I think these sort of sacrifices are more than peripheral, they are in many ways front and center.

And I don’t necessarily feel as though its entirely an a-parents fault. Adoption agencies do not provide enough literature and knowledge for parents going into transracial adoption from the beginning. What is the most striking is for the many adoptees who go to college and are literally hit over the head by being exposed to other Asian Americans and other people of color. It is only then that many of us have been able to understand the very complex and nuanced relationship that adoption and racial identity share. It’s at this adoption and racial nexus that many of us find (what one attendee commented on), that ‘we realize that we never knew we had issues.’

I had a great time meeting other adoptees, and interacting with those a-parents who were well-intentioned and respectful. We have so much dialogue left, and we as adoptees mean DIALOGUE, not “give us your advice.” I realize that since my sister’s article was first posted on my blog that a number of adoptive parents and agency blogs have linked my blog. I think it’s great, and there needs to be this sort of inter-group dialogue. Yet I know that we as adoptees need to continue to exist within safe-spaces where we may talk frankly with one-another.

Thanks to all who attended, and I wish I could go to the Gathering!

G.S.





Tests Showing How Racism Affects Your Body

18 07 2007

A friend forwarded to me this article from the Boston Globe on how there are being studies done testing how racism affects the body.  Take a look  -G.S.

How racism hurts — literally

FOUR YEARS AGO, researchers identified a surprising price for being a black woman in America. The study of 334 midlife women, published in the journal Health Psychology, examined links between different kinds of stress and risk factors for heart disease and stroke. Black women who pointed to racism as a source of stress in their lives, the researchers found, developed more plaque in their carotid arteries — an early sign of heart disease — than black women who didn’t. The difference was small but important — making the report the first to link hardening of the arteries to racial discrimination.

The study was just one in a fast-growing field of research documenting how racism literally hurts the body. More than 100 studies — most published since 2000 — now document the effects of racial discrimination on physical health. Some link blood pressure to recollected encounters with bigotry. Others record the cardiovascular reactions of volunteers subjected to racist imagery in a lab. Forthcoming research will even peek into the workings of the brain during exposure to racist provocations.

Scientists caution that the research is preliminary, and some of it is quite controversial, but they say the findings could profoundly change the way we look at both racism and health. It could unmask racism as a bona fide public health problem — just as reframing child abuse and marital violence as public health concerns transformed the way we thought about these ubiquitous but often secret sources of suffering. Viewing racial discrimination as a health risk could open the door to understanding how other climates of chronic mistreatment or fear seep into the body — why, for instance, pregnant women in California with Arabic names were suddenly more likely than any other group to deliver low birth-weight babies in the six months after 9/11.

Most striking, researchers note, is how consistent the findings have been across a wide range of studies. The task now, they say, is to discover why.

“We don’t know all the internal processes,” said James Jackson, director of the Institute for Social Research at the University of Michigan. “But we can observe an effect, and we need to find out what’s going on.”

The burgeoning research comes at a time when lawmakers and government officials are increasingly focused on the problem of racial disparities in health. African-Americans today, despite a half century of economic and social progress since the civil rights movement, face a higher risk than any other racial group of dying from heart disease, diabetes, stroke, and hypertension. In the United States, affluent blacks suffer, on average, more health problems than the poorest whites. Spurred by statistics like these, dozens of states and cities have been passing legislation intended to eliminate racial and ethnic disparities in health.

Boston’s Disparities Project, launched in 2005 by Mayor Menino’s office and the Boston Public Health Commission, is one of the most progressive blueprints for change. It includes partnerships with medical institutions, detailed public reports tracking progress, and community grants to tackle such entrenched problems as street violence and lack of access to fresh produce. In May, lawmakers on Beacon Hill held a hearing on proposed legislation that would reverse the root causes of health inequities. The bill would establish a state office of health equity, among other measures.

Critics of the new research tying racism directly to disease have charged that it is flawed because one cannot objectively measure “racial discrimination.” But the science has grown more sophisticated, allowing investigators to measure people’s experiences with prejudice more precisely. And its proponents argue that the sheer breadth of the work suggests the conclusions are important. Most of the investigations have been done in the United States, but a growing body of literature originates elsewhere — from Finland and Ireland to South Africa and New Zealand. These studies have found connections between racism and physical health in populations ranging from Brazil’s African-descended citizens to black women in the Netherlands who had immigrated from the former Dutch colony of Suriname.

“Across multiple societies, you’re finding similar kinds of relationships,” said David Williams, a sociologist at the Harvard School of Public Health. “There is a phenomenon here that is quite robust.”

For decades, experts have agreed that racial disparities in health spring from pervasive social and institutional forces. The scientific literature has linked higher rates of death and disease in American blacks to such “social determinants” as residential segregation, environmental waste, joblessness, unsafe housing, targeted marketing of alcohol and cigarettes, and other inequities.

But the new work draws on a different vein of research. In the early 1980s, Duke University social psychologist Sherman James, introduced his now-classic “John Henryism” hypothesis. The name comes from the legendary 19th-century “steel-driving” railroad worker who competed against a mechanical steam drill and won — only to drop dead from what today would probably be diagnosed as a massive stroke or heart attack. In James’s work, people who churn out prodigious physical and mental effort to cope with chronic life stresses are said to score high on John Henryism. James showed that blacks with high John Henryism but low socioeconomic position pay a physical price, with higher rates of blood pressure and hypertension.

Racism, other research suggests, acts as a classic chronic stressor, setting off the same physiological train wreck as job strain or marital conflict: higher blood pressure, elevated heart rate, increases in the stress hormone cortisol, suppressed immunity. Chronic stress is also known to encourage unhealthy behaviors, such as smoking and eating too much, that themselves raise the risk of disease.

In the 1990s, Harvard School of Public Health social epidemiologist Nancy Krieger pushed the hypothesis further. She confirmed that experiences of race-based discrimination were associated with higher blood pressure, and that an internalized response — not talking to others about the experience or not taking action against the inequity — raised blood pressure even more. A controversial finding at the time, it has since been replicated by other investigators: The suppressed inner turmoil after a racist encounter can set off a cascade of ill effects.

Jules Harrell, a Howard University professor of psychology, said he was moved this spring by a photo of the Rutgers University women’s college basketball team, sitting together with dignified expressions, after radio talk show host Don Imus had labeled them with a racist epithet.

“The expressions on their faces,” said Harrell. “All I could think was, ‘Good God, I’d hate to see their cortisol levels.’ “

Collectively, these studies of the racism-health link have tied experiences of discrimination to poorer self-reported health, smoking, low-birth-weight deliveries, depressive symptoms, and especially to cardiovascular effects. In the mid-1980s scientists began to take advantage of the controlled conditions of the laboratory. When African-American volunteers are hooked up to blood-pressure monitors, for example, and then exposed to a racially provocative vignette on tape or TV — such as a white store clerk calling a black customer a racist epithet — the volunteers’ blood pressures rise, their heart rates jump, and they take longer than normal to recover from both reactions. Perhaps, scientists reasoned, the effort of a lifetime of bracing for such threats prolongs the effect.

More recently, the lab has moved out into the real world. Several investigations have linked blood pressure to real-time experiences of stress and discrimination as recorded in electronic diaries. In one yet-to-be-published study, Elizabeth Brondolo, a psychologist at St. John’s University, found that daytime experiences of racism led to elevated nighttime blood pressure, suggesting that the body couldn’t turn off its stress response.

Despite these suggestive findings, the field remains beset by unknowns. One of the biggest problems is that researchers don’t share a concrete, agreed-upon definition of racial discrimination — partly because such prejudice takes myriad forms. They also don’t know if more exposure to racism produces more disease or if, instead, disease sets in only after a threshold has been passed. They don’t know if exposures during certain periods of life are more risky than others. And they don’t know why some victims cope better than others.

Skeptics distrust people’s own accounts of racial discrimination, because the experiences can’t be objectively documented and because the victim can’t always know the motives of the perpetrator.

“You have to read these studies very carefully and see how they define ‘discrimination.’ What exactly are they measuring?” said Dr. Sally Satel, a resident scholar at the American Enterprise Institute, a conservative think-tank. “Typically, it comes down to an individual’s perception of how he was regarded by another person or by a system — which is not the same thing as being unfavorably dealt with on the basis of race.”

The field’s proponents counter that perception is precisely the issue. Studies of depression, anger, and post-traumatic stress disorder also rely on the patient’s perceptions of events in their lives, they say — not on objectively verified facts. Why should research on discrimination be held to a different standard?

Researchers have also refined the questionnaires and interview methods they use, allowing them to tease out the effects of depression or hostility — mood states that can encourage a person to see discrimination where it’s not. The questions posed have also grown more subtle and indirect, enabling study participants to talk openly about experiences they might otherwise deny or minimize.

Methods gauging changes in the body have likewise become more accurate. Stress researchers have gone beyond such straightforward approaches as taking blood-pressure readings or asking individuals to rate their own health. Now, with noninvasive diagnostic equipment, they can look directly at coronary blockages, levels of stress hormone, and the functioning of the immune system. These measurements help scientists zero in on the mechanisms by which racial discrimination may ultimately cause damage.

At the University of California, Los Angeles, psychologist Vickie Mays, director of the Center on Minority Health Disparities, is taking a futuristic angle on racism’s bodily toll: peering into the brain itself. In a forthcoming study, Mays will record what happens in the brain’s circuits and structures during laboratory conditions of discrimination and whether people vary in their brain responses based on their lifelong exposure to racial prejudice.

“We know about [racism's] outcome — but in many ways we don’t know what makes up the experience of racism,” she said. “Is it processing in the part of the brain responsible for emotions? Or in the part of the brain responsible for fear?”

Racism remains challenging to explore scientifically, researchers say, partly because it is difficult to get funding and partly because of institutional reluctance to take on a potentially polarizing issue. In 2006, Harvard’s David Williams and a colleague submitted a grant proposal to the National Institutes of Health to study whether perceived ethnic discrimination, coupled with inequities in medical care, delayed stroke recovery in Latinos. As one reviewer wrote back, “It is not a good investment of NIH dollars to study racism, because even if we fund something, there is nothing we can do about it.”

It’s the kind of remark many scientists in the field have heard. These comments are frustrating, they say, because they see the research as a crucial first step toward a more clinical, less charged, discussion of the place of racism in American society.

“The first step is validating that these effects could be real,” said Tené Lewis, a health psychologist at the Yale School of Public Health. “Once we have a body of literature, we can say: ‘OK, can we please talk about this?’ “

Boston-based journalist and author Madeline Drexler, a former Globe Magazine medical columnist, holds a visiting appointment at the Harvard School of Public Health.





Chinese Adoptee’s Twin Found

18 07 2007

Thanks to the K@W.  I do want to point out a few things I’ve been gnawing on after reading this article.  First the whole “preferential adoption” thing strikes me as a little strange.  I remember growing up always feeling as though I had been a plan “B” for my parents since most parents adopt as a last resort after trying various methods to conceive a child biologically.  Labeling those who adopt as “preferential adopters” is kind of strange to me and feels like just another way to angelically crown a halo on the adoptive parents for their choice to adopt in place of having a biological child.  Not that this is a bad thing, and I certainly think that if adoption is to continue there need to be more parents and families willing to do so, I just think that many adoptive families and parents in the media (esp celebrity adoptions) continue to be angelicized for their “philanthropic” acts at “saving” these “lost” babies.  Any other adoptees want to chime in here?

Also I just wanted to note how the mother keeps saying that she feels her child’s twin “should be hers.”  To me it exemplifies how this idea of ownership can sometimes be conflated with adoptive parenting.  It’s like a family who keeps adopting to try to bring all the children in one family together (which isn’t necessarily bad), but it feels very much like collecting.

Well enough of the editorial here, it just struck me a little raw and I wanted to air a few of my concerns and thoughts.  Please feel free to chime in.  G.S.

Our lone twin from China

By Jane Ashley and Emily Buchanan
BBC Radio 4′s China Girl

Soon after bringing this little girl home from a Chinese orphanage, her
British parents proudly posted photos of her online – only for it to
reveal that she has an identical twin sister, also adopted abroad.
Adoption from China is a gruelling process, which takes many years. And
Wiltshire couple Jo and Charlie have found it can bring dramatic
surprises.

The one-child policy in parts of China means abandoned children
“People think you are just going out, there are some nice smiley
children in a row, we’ll have that one, we’re just picking a fruit off a
tree,” says Charlie.

It couldn’t be more different. First there is a home study by British
social services. Once approved, there are mounds of paperwork to amass,
which the UK government processes and forwards to the authorities in
China. Finally the long wait – currently several years – to be matched
with a child.

Jo works for an animal conservation charity and Charlie in the airline
industry. They are what’s known as “preferential adopters” – couples
who, although able to have biological children, chose to adopt. “We just
felt there are enough kids on the planet that aren’t being loved,” says
Charlie.

Just over three years after they began their adoption journey, last
November Jo and Charlie went to China to collect the baby they had been
matched with. They called her Evie, keeping her Chinese name as a second
option.

Evie, now almost two
Adoptive couples don’t get any information on the birth parents as
abandonment is illegal in China, but Jo and Charlie often think about
who they might be. “I’m endlessly curious,” says Jo. “I look at her face
and think ‘Are those eyes her mother’s?’”

And then, two months after coming home, the couple made a chance
discovery that their daughter had an identical twin who had been adopted
by a family who live far from the UK. Both families belong to an e-mail
group for the orphanage.

“I had put some photos of Evie up there and they saw her,” Jo says. “We
were shocked. Having believed Evie would never know any of her blood
relatives, we now have as close a blood relative as you can get.”

Mirror image

When they were in China, the other parents had been allowed to visit the
orphanage, unlike Jo and Charlie who had adopted Evie first.

Your instant reaction is she’s my baby too – I want her here, but we
would never dream of doing that

Jo on Evie’s twin

Child and prejudice
“It dawned on us that maybe the reason we weren’t allowed to go was
because we would have seen the other little girl,” says Charlie.

The families are now in regular contact, speaking over Skype, using
webcams and e-mail, and sending each other DVDs.

When she sees photos of Evie’s twin, Jo is torn. “Your instant reaction
is she’s my baby too. I want her here. And we would never dream of doing
that. Neither family ever thought we should reunite them permanently.
They are both settled and very happy. But I went through a stage of
being really wobbly about it. She’s a part of Evie and Evie is a part of
her sister.”

She hopes the two families might meet up when the children are older,
possibly back in China. “I’d personally like the girls to be able to
understand it and remember their first meeting.”

And there might, after all, be a trail to Evie’s birth parents. In
China, identical twins are thought very special indeed and Jo and
Charlie think someone would have known about them.

Evie steps into her new life
“It’s unusual for kids from China to be able to go back and do that,”
says Charlie “Some of these kids grow up with a hole inside them because
a part isn’t there, part of the story that forever will be missing. I
genuinely believe that Evie and her sister have this chance that isn’t
offered to many kids who are adopted from China. Whether she takes it up
is her option, but at least that option is there.”

More than ever, the birth parents are on the couple’s mind. They would
love to be able to let them know that their daughters have found each
other.

“They must occasionally wonder what happened to their two girls and it
would be fantastic if we could at some point reassure them that their
kids were being looked after. They are so loved,” says Charlie.

China Girl is broadcast in the UK on BBC Radio 4 on 16 and 23 July at
1100 BST, then online for seven days on Radio 4′s Listen again page.





KAAN Conference Update

17 07 2007

Hi all,

I’m not sure if any of you are planning to go to this year’s KAAN Conference in Cambridge, Massachusetts, but I did want to give a little shout out for the adoptee reception that will be happening on Friday evening. I’ll paste below an email that a board member sent out from BKA. Hope to see you all there! It’s adoptee only I believe, so sorry no A-parents. -G.S.

BKA/KAAN (http://webmail.aol.com/28363/aol/en-us/Suite.aspx#) Welcome Dinner
for Adult and Teen Adoptees
Restaurant Dante

Royal Sonesta Hotel Boston
40 Edwin Land Boulevard
Cambridge, MA 02142
Tel: 800-SONESTA (U.S. & Canada)
Tel: 617.806.4200
Fax: 617.806.4232
(http://www.sonesta.com/Boston) Sonesta.com/Boston

KA Members (all dues-paying levels): $25.00 per person
Non-BKA Members: $35.00 per person
To register for dinner, please send your check to:

Boston Korean Adoptees, Inc.
c (http://webmail.aol.com/28363/aol/en-us/Suite.aspx#) /o Beth Aarons, Esq.
60 Austin Street, Suite 210
Newtonville, MA 02460

Please note the name of the attendee (and guests, where applicable) and
e-mail address/contact information.

If you wish to become a member of Boston Korean Adoptees, please check out
the “Membership” section of this website for the printable Membership Form and
dues rates. Please send the form, membership dues and payment for the
Welcome Reception to the address listed above. Thanks!

Eileen Yang Thompson,
Board member, BKA,inc





Japanese Adoptee Finds Birth Mother

17 07 2007

Thanks to K@W for the heads up on this article.

Search for birth mother has Hollywood ending
Posted 7/27/2006 9:16 PM ET
By Emily Bazar, USA TODAY

WASHINGTON — When crushing chest pains knocked Air Force Col. Bruce Hollywood to his knees, his first thought was that if he were dying, he wanted to say goodbye to his family. As he wrote a farewell letter at his desk at the Pentagon, the highlights of his life flashed through his mind.
His adoptive mother’s advice rang in his ears: “You should find your Japanese mother,” she often told him before she died.

After Hollywood, 46, survived the May 2005 scare — doctors opened a clogged artery with a stent — he decided it was time to take that advice.

And when Japan’s ambassador to the United States took an interest, quick action brought mother and son together.

On Thursday, Hollywood and his birth mother celebrated their recent reunion at lunch with the people who helped bring them together, including Ambassador Ryozo Kato.

“Col. Hollywood has found his real mother,” Kato said. “Together with other relatives, it’s a significant addition to the already fruitful life he’s been enjoying.”

According to Hollywood and his mother, Nobue Ouchi, who was interviewed through an interpreter, their story is about a dream fulfilled and a rich life made richer.

Ouchi, 65, met Hollywood’s biological father — also in the U.S. Air Force — in Shizuoka, Japan. When he left the country, Ouchi says, she didn’t realize she was pregnant.

Concerned that a mixed-race child would face prejudice in Japan, Ouchi allowed an Air Force couple in Japan at the time to adopt her son when he was about 2 months old.

A year later, the new family moved back to the USA.

Hollywood, of Stafford, Va., says he has lived a “fairy tale” life. He played high school football and was president of the student body, married and has two children. He does strategic planning for the Defense Department.

Even though his adoptive mother often urged him to find his biological mother, he didn’t feel the need until that day that he thought he was dying. At that moment, he wanted to thank her for making his good life possible.

Ouchi, though, says she always knew she and her son would be reunited someday. She has cherished a letter and picture that Hollywood’s adoptive mother sent to her several months after the adoption.

Ouchi, who never married or had other children, opened a restaurant and named it after her son. “I thought about him every day,” she says.

To find her, Hollywood contacted a friend who knew the director of the Japanese studies center at Vanderbilt University in Nashville, and the information from Hollywood’s Japanese passport was forwarded to the Japanese Embassy in March.

In two weeks, the embassy had located his mother.

Mother and son met for the first time when Hollywood traveled to Japan in April. This week, Ouchi is visiting him.

Her dream came true. His heart grew fuller.

“At that moment when I looked back at my life, I really thought that in the game of life, I won,” Hollywood says. “This whole new world opened up to me, and it’s like I get to play a bonus round.”





Adopting New Attitudes in Japan

16 07 2007

Article courtesy of the K@W list as usual.  Again here’s another article on the rising number of public baby cradles cropping up around the world.  How do you feel about these baby cradles?  –G.S.

Adopting new attitudes in Japan

Tuesday, July 10, 2007

When a newborn baby girl was left in Japan’s controversial “baby hatch”
last week, the child’s life may have been saved, but her chances of
finding new parents are slim due to a cultural aversion to adoption in
Japan.
The baby is one of four tots – one of them three years old – so far left
at the “stork’s cradle” baby hatch at the Catholic-run Jikei Hospital in
Kumamoto, southern Japan.

A small door in the outside wall of the hospital opens to reveal a tiny
bed inside, allowing parents to leave their child safely and
anonymously. Once they do, an alarm goes off to alert hospital staff to
the new arrival.

Similar facilities exist in Germany, where babies are offered for
adoption after an eight-week period during which birth parents can
change their minds.

But the many vocal critics of the first “baby hatch” in Japan are afraid
it may encourage parents to opt out of their responsibilities. And legal
barriers and prejudice against adoption in Japan may mean that children
abandoned in the “baby hatch” will be raised in institutions rather than
by adopted parents.

“There is a feeling that it is somehow natural for children who can’t
live with their parents to be in an institution,” said Masaki Takakura,
a journalist and author of a book on adoption.

“This is a hangover from the postwar years, when children whose parents
had died were rounded up and sent to orphanages.”

Local officials will not comment on specific cases, but if Japanese
courts do not define the “baby hatch” children as officially
“abandoned,” they may be left in children’s homes for years,
theoretically awaiting the return of their birth parents.

The vast majority of the 30,000 children in Japan’s children’s homes -
which are struggling to cope with increasing numbers of abused
youngsters – will stay put until they are old enough to work.

Research shows growing up in an institution often leads to disadvantages
in emotional development as well as education and employment, which is
why many say attitudes toward adoption need to be changed in Japan.

“I used to have a very negative image of adoption and I think a lot of
other people do too,” said 38-year-old housewife Tomoyo Suzuki, adding
that her thinking changed after she went to a seminar about it. She and
her husband went on to adopt two babies now aged three and one.

“I think a lot of people are concerned about blood ties.”

Prime Minister Shinzo Abe – who criticized the “baby hatch” for
encouraging parents to opt out of their responsibilities – and his wife
Akie themselves rejected the idea of adopting.

Last year Akie went public with her fertility problems and said her
husband had suggested they adopt. “I could not accept this and was not
confident about bringing up an adoptee properly, so it did not happen,”
she told a Japanese magazine.

Those who do adopt often move house immediately afterwards to cover up
their child’s origins, said Kazuko Yokota of Motherly Network, a
volunteer group that supports women coping with unexpected pregnancies
and arranges adoptions.

“Children in need of adoption have been stigmatized by notions of pure
and impure or good and bad blood,” Peter Hayes of Britain’s Sunderland
University and Toshie Habu wrote in their book Adoption in Japan.

For much of Japan’s history, adoption has therefore remained within the
extended family, with childless couples often taking in a nephew or
other relative to carry on their family name or business, rather than
because the child was in need of care.

“Special adoption,” of needy nonrelatives was not introduced until 1989
and only a few hundred cases are approved each year.

The difference lies not only in the shortage of willing parents, but
also the small number of available babies, many say.

When women give birth they must enter the child’s name on their family
register, a powerful incentive for single women to end a pregnancy or
even abandon a newborn rather than risk its being discovered by a
potential employer or future husband.

“We have campaigned at least for minors to be able to leave this
information off their registers, but we have been told it won’t happen,”
said Yokota of Motherly Network.





CW’s ‘Aliens in America’ Makes Racism Toward South Asians “OK!”

13 07 2007

I can’t believe this is a show on television…not to mention that CW is airing this show. The trailor is so friggin ridiculously racist and xenophobic. Take a look, but don’t say I didn’t warn you… G.S.





Sarah McLachlan & DMC are Adoptees

12 07 2007

I might be the only one to not know this, but apparently musicians Sarah McLachlan and DMC are adoptees. Apparently neither of them found out until they were adults, and since then have formed a sort of friendship around adoption. I guess I never realized that this song was about adoption when it came out, but they both did a song together and a music video about being adopted. Check it out.








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