New KAD Study

3 02 2010

Hi everyone,

I try not to bog people down with adoptee research requests, but a friend of mine asked that I help spread the word about her study that she and a friend are working on.  They are looking at the effects of travel to Korea on adoptees and their lives after they return.  As always, I am happy to promote research that has a purpose and this project has just that.  There are some relatively personal questions, but their intentions are good and the outcome will be beneficial for us all.  -GS

We need your help if you are a Korean adoptee who is:
* Currently 20 years or older
* Went to Korea at age 20 or older
* Went to Korea and RETURNED to pre-Korea life
Please respond to our independent research study!
There are only 49 questions, and it should take 20-30 minutes. Email us for the password  at 2curiouskads [at] gmail com, and then proceed to this link: http://www.facebook.com/l/95d11;www.kwiksurveys.com/online-survey.php?surveyID=BIDNH_636365b6. Be sure to enable cookies before you start so you can go back  later on if you need to.
Some of these questions might seem personal, but the more open and honest you can be the more helpful your responses will be for other adoptees. Please know that your responses are generated anonymously.
Feel free to post this message on your own blog or copy, paste and email it to anyone who might be interested in participating. Or simply email us at 2curiouskads [at] gmail com, with a list of emails, and we’ll be happy to send out the information.
Here’s some info on us. We are Korean adoptees, 32 and 35 years old, who’ve been Korea 2-3 times. After we returned from Korea last year we felt isolated. Displaced. Confused. Unable to ease back into our pre-Korea lives. We wondered if other adoptees felt the same way. More importantly, if they didn’t, what had they done to prevent these feelings from manifesting? What sort of foundations, behaviors, life circumstances did they have in place that enabled them to feel rooted and connected when they returned? And how could this information offer support to other adoptees?
This is where you come in. If we get enough responses we will develop the results into a presentation for the IKAA Gathering in Seoul this summer so that your responses will help others just like you.
Much appreciation,
Rae Anne and Saebom
2curiouskads [at] gmail com





Finding the Right Words for Haiti…

20 01 2010

This past week we have found ourselves glued to our tv sets gripped with the realities of the earth quake in Haiti.  We’ve seen buildings completely obliterated, and death everywhere.  Some have been rescued but most are suffering.

There have been several campaigns to raise money for Haiti in our backyards and many on the national and international levels.  And now, I’m starting to receive email from adoption agencies saying that we should donate.

Only a week after this traumatic tragedy, Americans are talking about adoption.  Yesterday’s CNN headlines babbled on about ~45 Haitian children being adopted by Pennsylvanian families.  And now, there are more and more adoption agencies jumping on the bandwagon to get children to the US as fast as possible.  How do I feel about it?  I have been struggling to find the words to explain how I feel about the ramifications of this horrible tragedy.  But after only a week, these “alleged” orphans are being flown to their new families in the US.  In a country whose infrastructure has been almost completely weakened, who in Haiti is helping facilitate these adoptions?  Can we be sure they are conducting legitimate adoptions when so much of the country is scrambling to find its bearings?

Just caught wind of this blog post about Haiti.  Takes many of the words right out of my mouth.

http://outlandishremarks.wordpress.com/2010/01/19/whites-make-pact-with-god-expedite-haitian-adoptions/





Intercountry Adoptions hits 13-year Low

18 12 2009

I just caught this AP article on the Globe website.  Apparently intercountry adoptions are down 27% since last year, and 45% lower than the peak of intercountry adoptions in 2004.

As we all know, foreign policy, strict adoption policies, socioeconomics and of course the dreaded “C” word (corruption) have caused many programs to shut down over the years making way for new programs to emerge.  As China and Russia’s adoptions continue to taper off, Ethiopia’s intercountry adoption program has emerged.  For some prospective adoptive families it’s just a matter of wait times.  Some who decide to adopt from China can be wait-listed for years.  Whereas Ethiopia’s adoption program is much faster (In many cases, less than a year from what I hear).

What makes this article so interesting for me is what this means for the post-adoption service needs of Chinese adoptees.  Apparently there are now more Chinese children with special physical or emotional needs coming to the US via adoption.  This drastically changes the post-adoption service needs of Chinese adoptees who are adopted after the first major wave of adoptions from China.  With so many Chinese adoption agencies in the US shutting down, will service providers be able to accommodate the emerging needs of this new generation of Chinese adoptees?

Please read  GS

Foreign adoptions by Americans hit 13-year low

By David Crary, AP National Writer  |  December 17, 2009

NEW YORK –The number of foreign children adopted by Americans plunged more than a quarter in the past year, reaching the lowest level since 1996 and leading adoption advocates to urge Congress to help reverse the trend.

Big declines were recorded for all three countries that provided the most adopted children in the previous fiscal year. In China and Russia, government officials have been trying to promote domestic adoptions, while in Guatemala, a once-bustling but highly corrupt international adoption industry was shut down while reforms are implemented.

Figures for fiscal year 2009, released by the State Department on Thursday, showed 12,753 adoptions from abroad, down from 17,438 in 2008 — a dip of 27 percent and nearly 45 percent lower than the all-time peak of 22,884 in 2004.

The last time there were fewer foreign adoptions to the U.S. was in 1996, when there were 11,340.

China was the No. 1 source country in 2009 — but U.S. adoptions from there dropped to 3,001, compared with 3,909 in 2008. China has been steadily cutting back the numbers of healthy, well-adjusted orphans being made available for adoptions; a majority of Chinese children now available to U.S. adoptive families have special physical or emotional needs.

Guatemala was the No. 1 source country in 2008, with 4,123 adoptions by Americans. But the number sank to 756 for 2009, virtually all of them in the final few months before the Central American country’s adoption industry was shut down while authorities drafted reforms. It’s not known when adoptions to the U.S. will resume.

The biggest increase came from Ethiopia — 2,277 adoptions in fiscal 2009, compared with 1,725 in 2008.

Russia was No. 4 in the new listing with 1,586 adoptions, a 15 percent drop.

Adoptions from Vietnam — where the industry, like Guatemala’s, has been plagued by corruption allegations — dropped from 751 to 481. The bilateral U.S.-Vietnam adoption agreement expired in September and has not been renewed.

Chuck Johnson, chief operating officer of the National Council for Adoption, said the new figures dismayed him and other advocates of international adoption.

“This drop is not a result of fewer orphans or less interest from American families in adopting children from other countries,” he said. “All of us are very discouraged because we see the suffering taking place. We don’t know how to fix it without the U.S. government coming alongside.”

According to Johnson, the State Department considers its current adoption mandate to be assisting U.S. citizens with foreign adoption procedures and monitoring the integrity of foreign countries’ adoption industries.

Johnson said he would like the mandate expanded to give the department explicit authority to encourage more international adoptions, and he suggested a first step could be made if Congress passed a proposed bill called the Families for Orphans Act.

Johnson also said all parties who have tolerated corrupt adoption practices bore some of the blame for the dwindling numbers.

“People in the practice of adoption worldwide have made ethical blunders that have cast a shadow over intercountry adoptions,” he said. “It’s highlighted how difficult it is for some of these countries to adequately supervise the adoption process, and led some countries to decide it’s just not worth the effort.”

Thomas DiFilipo, president of the Joint Council on International Children’s Services, predicted the numbers for fiscal 2010 would be even lower — down to about 9,800 — if adoptions from Vietnam remained suspended by the U.S. government and China continued to cut back.

DiFilipo said he’d like to see the State Department become a more active promoter of international adoption.

“One of their primary functions is to help potential adoptive parents, when their focus should be on children in need of adoptive families,” DiFilipo said. “The Families for Orphans Act would fill that void.”

Adoptions of Chinese children by Americans peaked in fiscal 2005 at 7,906 and have fallen steadily since then. Some U.S. families have been waiting roughly four years for their adoption applications to be completed.

At Great Wall China Adoption, based in Austin, Texas, spokeswoman Kelly Ayoub said the agency placed nearly 1,000 children from China in 2005 and would probably place only one-fifth of that number this year.

“Of course families are frustrated by the wait,” she said in an e-mail. “Families that are being matched right now have waited 45 months — an investment of time that no one expected.”

Like some other agencies, Great Wall China is branching out geographically — advising families to consider Ethiopia, Rwanda, Mexico and the Philippines, among other places.

Among the Americans engaged in a long wait for an adoption from China is Steve Curtis of Millburn, N.J. He and his wife applied in October 2007 to adopt a second child as a sister to Amelia, whom they adopted from China the previous year.

“Unfortunately, we are STILL waiting, with no end in sight,” Curtis said in an e-mail last week. “We’re thinking of throwing in the towel but are keeping the faith.”





I Am Korean American

10 12 2009

Hi all – Have been monitoring this new project called “I Am Korean American,” for quite some time.  I’ve had three friends who have been featured, two of which, are Korean adoptees.  Thanks for putting yourselves out there Jamey and Stephanie!

You can check out the website by clicking here.

Here’s some additional information about the project…-GS

About

I AM KOREAN AMERICAN is an on-going web project that aims to collect brief profiles of Korean Americans.

Every new profile of a Korean American will be featured on the homepage. A profile will consist of the person’s name, age, location, occupation, and a personal statement that could be a mini bio, a memorable story, a rant, aspirations, or anything else. Our goal is to compile a collection of profiles that showcase the diversity and many interesting personalities of the Korean American population. We hope that our collective efforts will provide a snapshot of the Korean American community at this point in our history.

We’re not a celebrity blog and we don’t care if you’re known by millions or if you’re known by a few dozen. We’re excited to learn more about you and to share your story with others.

I AM KOREAN AMERICAN is a project of Barrel, a brand and web consulting company in New York.





CFP: Journal of Korean Adoption Studies, 3rd issue

10 12 2009

Our friends at GOAL have just released the CFP for the next issue of the Journal of Korean Adoption Studies.  -GS
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CALL FOR PAPERS

Journal of Korean Adoption Studies

Number 3: Community

Guest edited by Jennifer Kwon Dobbs

DEADLINE FOR SUBMISSIONS:

1 APRIL 2010

This is a
call for papers for the third issue of the Journal
of Korean Adoption Studies.
This issue focuses on community as a significant project that Korean
adoptees have been engaged in building since the early 1980s. This
issue facilitates opportunities to examine struggles for community by
documenting previous models on which adoptees have relied to imagine
possible directions toward developing collective unity.

For more detailed info about the CFP and to submit a paper, click here.*

Journal of Korean Adoption
Studies is dedicated to all aspects of int’l adoption from Korea. The
peer-reviewed journal welcomes academic essays, testimonies of
adoption, illustrations and reviews of new publications or releases
related to Korean adoption studies.

Guest Editor: Jennifer Kwon Dobbs, Ph.D. in Literature and Creative Writing, St. Olaf College. Journal of Korean Adoption
Studies is a bi-annual journal published in English and Korean by
Global Overseas Adoptees’ Link (G.O.A.’L), Seoul, Korea.

* (If the hyperlink is not accessible, please go directly to the G.O.A.’L website to download the CFP: http://goal.or.kr/eng/?slms=room&lsms=1&sl=6&ls=55)

To preview or purchase a copy of the very first issue of Journal of Korean Adoption Studies (Vol. 1, No. 1, Summer 2009), visit our website: http://goal.or.kr/eng/?slms=room&lsms=1&sl=6&ls=46

Thank you,

Nicole Sheppard
Managing Editor
Journal of Korean Adoption Studies

Global Overseas Adoptees’ Link (G.O.A.’L)
www.goal.or.kr
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IKAA Gathering Registration Begins!

8 12 2009

Hi everyone,

Good news, the IKAA Gathering Registration period has begun.  But you should register soon because the early bird rates only last until the end of January.  Did you hear that Santa?  I want Gathering registration for Christmas…

-GS
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SAVE THE DATES: August 3-8, 2010!

After the success of the Adoptee Gatherings of 2004 and 2007 in Korea, the IKAA Network is pleased to announce another IKAA Gathering in Seoul.  Over 800 participants from around the world are expected to attend the
event.

In addition to cultivating community among adoptees, the IKAA Gathering
2010 also hopes to promote dialogue and a greater understanding between the global Korean adoptee community and Korean society.

For registration, visit:  http://ikaa.org/en/





International Korean Adoptee Association announces call for proposals for 2010 Gathering, Korea

4 12 2009

If you are thinking of going to The Gathering in Korea and are interested in submitting a proposal please take a look at this CFP.  KAD Bloggers please pass this around!  Sorry I can’t attach something at the moment, but you can download one at the IKAA website:  CLICK HERE

Gathering Dates: August 3-8, 2010

Location: Seoul, Korea

[Hotel TBA]

Submission Due Date: February 15, 2010

Submit to: usa@ikaa.org

Questions? Contact – Sarah Kim Randolph at sarah.kim@ikaa.org

INTRODUCTION

The Korean adult adoptee community has been organizing for over 20 years, and the Gatherings have been an essential part of the emergence of our truly global community.  While there have been multiple conferences for and about Korean adoptees, the Gatherings stand out for their large number of attendees from a diversity of backgrounds.  Previous Gatherings include:
•    1999 – Washington, D.C., USA
•    2001 – Oslo, Norway
•    2004 – Seoul, Korea
•    2007 – Seoul, Korea (the 1st Gathering officially organized by the IKAA network)

With each successive Gathering, the number of conference attendees rose significantly, with over 600 attending in 2007.  Given that the height of adoptions from Korea occurred during the mid-1980’s, we expect to see continued growth at the 2010 IKAA Gathering, since larger numbers of adoptees are now in or reaching adulthood and therefore more likely to travel to Korea for such a conference.  We project over 800 Korean adult adoptees to attend the 2010 IKAA Gathering.

As is tradition at the Gatherings, the 2010 IKAA Gathering will provide the opportunity for adoptees to present a wide variety of sessions related to Korean adoption and living as a Korean adoptee.  We encourage submission of thoughtful proposals for sessions that will provide attendees an opportunity to learn, network, share, interact, and reflect.  These sessions are different in nature than the presentations that will be made during the Gathering’s Research Symposium in that the general sessions are not required to be academic in nature.  In addition to academics, we welcome session proposals from artists, community organizers, filmmakers, writers, and other members of the Korean adult adoptee.

Aside from sessions, there will also be a mini-film festival during the Gathering, featuring past and more recent works that address various aspects of Korean adoption and our community.  There is a separate Call for Proposals for films as well as a separate submission form for films.

TYPES OF SESSIONS

In your proposal, please mark what type of session you are proposing.  Definitions of types are as follows:

Panel: Panels are sessions that provide an opportunity for individuals considered knowledgeable and/or experienced in a specific subject matter to present their views, discuss among themselves, and interact with the audience. Panel sessions should start with a brief introduction of the panel topic and the participants, followed by brief presentations by each panelist regarding their view or experience. The session should allow a sufficient opportunity (at least 30 minutes) for an interactive question & answer period involving both the panelists and audience members. Panels must include an individual (moderator) to monitor length of time and assist with guiding audience questions.
Examples
•    Experiences with Divorce: Stories of Adoptees
•    Adoptees and Their Experiences with Birth Search
•    Adoptees in Filmmaking

Presentation: Presentations are sessions involving a display of information (i.e. slide show, demonstration of materials, etc), in combination with a presenter(s)–led dialogue or informal lecture, set forth for the audience of interest. A brief question & answer period or interactive discussion should be reserved for the end of the session.
Examples
•    International Adoption in the Media: Images and History
•    To Live, or Not to Live in Korea? Considerations and Suggestions
•    Gender Specific Issues of Adult Adoptees

Workshop: Workshops are sessions intended to engage attendees in creative activities and applicable learning experiences, often combining informational and interactive approaches. Workshop leaders typically offer practical experience to help attendees increase their understanding and skills in a particular area of current interest.
Examples
•    Team-building for Organized Adoptee Groups
•    How to Improve Your Noraebang Skills
•    Responding to Difficult Questions or Ignorance: Tips and Strategies for Adoptees

Interactive Discussion: Interactive discussions are sessions intended to provide a comfortable environment for attendees to participate in a more structured discussion to generate discourse about a topic previously identified. In a typical session, facilitator(s) introduce the topic and set up a semi-structured context for discussion sub-topics and interactions among participants.
Examples
•    Dating and Marriage Within and Outside the Adoptee Community
•    Bridging Connections with the Non-Adopted Korean Community
•    An Open Discussion Regarding the Mental Health Experiences of Adoptees
***NOTE*** There will be multiple breakout interactive discussion groups, based on age, for all Gathering attendees.  These discussion groups will take place at the beginning of the week.

Caucus: Caucuses are considered sessions that consist of a subgroup of individuals that come together based on common characteristics or a particular goal that has been previously defined. A caucus session often consists of an informal discussion platform regarding topic(s) that ties attendees of the session together.
Examples
•    Single Parent Adoptees
•    LGBTQ Adoptees
•    Adoptees in Academia
•    Regional caucuses (e.g. Adoptees in the Netherlands, Adoptees in the Southwestern USA, etc.)

SUGGESTED SESSION TOPICS

We encourage proposals with topics that appeal to a broad range of adoptees in addition to topics that have an innovative approach to Korean adoption and being an adoptee.  In addition to the examples given above some suggested topics include:
•    Birth Search
o    Considerations before starting a search/how to conduct a search
o    Coping with a search that does not result in a reunion with birth family
o    How to build and maintain a relationship with birth family
•    Generations after adult adoptees (children of adoptees)
•    Race, ethnicity, nationality, and identity in our adoptive countries and in Korea
•    Recent and current changes to adoption laws in Korea (e.g. Central Authority, etc.)
•    History of adoption from Korea
•    Memoirs, anthologies, and other book resources for adoptees
•    Web 2.0 adoptee communities and resources
•    Korean history & its relation to adoption (e.g. Korean/American War)
•    Modern Korean pop culture (hallyu, or “the Korean wave”)
•    Adoptees’ relationships with friends and/or adoptive family
•    Sessions in non-English languages, including French, Norwegian, and all of the other languages spoken by members of the Korean transnational adoption disaspora

Handouts/Printed Materials
Please provide sufficient copies of all handouts and printed materials you plan to distribute during your session.  Also consider making your materials available electronically for those who are not able to attend.

Audio/Visual Equipment
Due to limited funds, all session presenters are strongly encouraged to provide their own A/V equipment, especially laptops and projectors.  Please be very clear on what you will provide and what you need on your proposal form. Also, please perform several test runs with your equipment prior to your session.

Arts/Crafts Supplies
If your session requires using any arts & crafts materials (e.g. paint, boxes, paper, scissors, etc.) please provide these by bringing them with you to Korea or purchasing them in Korea.  The Gathering Planning Committee can provide suggestions for inexpensive stores to purchase these items in Seoul.  The Planning Committee will also do its best to notify session organizers how many attendees to expect in their session, although organizers should be prepared for a large range of attendance possibilities.

Multiple Submissions
Submissions should be limited to 2 per individual. This will assist in maximizing the opportunity for a diverse group of presenters, subject matter, and session styles for reviewers to choose from.  Limiting the number of proposals also assists with avoiding session scheduling conflicts.

SUBMISSION POLICIES

•    In order for proposals to be considered, individuals must be complete and adhere to all guidelines set forth in the call for proposals. Submissions that are incomplete or do not follow these guidelines will not be considered.
•    Individuals with proposals that are being considered for acceptance may be required to modify content and/or be provided with recommendations to revise the proposal to best fit the needs of Gathering attendees.
•    Once accepted, proposal authors will be contacted and provided with information to assist with the development of their proposal, if needed.
•    All sessions will be 90 minutes.
•    In order to assure that sessions are conducted in an organized manner, session authors will be required to provide a more detailed outline of their accepted session as the gathering nears. Therefore, please do your best to identify all concerns with regards to your session prior to the Gathering (i.e. need for equipment, guidance in presentation style, etc.).





Organ Donor?

2 12 2009

I guess I’ve been watching too much tv lately.  But a few shows got me thinking about being an organ donor.  There was this 30 Rock episode I was watching where Jack finds his biological father.  In the process, he also finds out that his dad is in need of a kidney.  All of a sudden Jack’s happiness about being reunited with his father vanishes.  In the end he’s not a match anyways, but it got me thinking about similar things with my birth family.

What if someone in my family was sick and needed an organ donated?  What if  they called on me to see if I was a match?  And what if I was a match?  How would I feel about it?  I’m not sure how I feel about it right now.  If my mom called me today and said “son, your uncle needs a kidney, we need yours.”  How would I feel?  I guess I’m feeling guilty about feeling so uneasy because for a long time I always wondered whether my mom or other relatives would do the same for me if I needed it.

Has anyone else thought much about this at all?  All these new questions keep popping up and I’m not sure how I feel about them.  -GS





Thanksgiving and Adoption

24 11 2009

Thanksgiving is upon us yet again.  And with Thanksgiving I try to remind myself what we are celebrating.  Are we celebrating the beginnings of this country?  Or is it possible that what we are celebrating is also tragically and incomprehensibly the death of another civilization?  Both seem to be present day understandings of what has become an American holiday of “thanks.”  We give thanks for a nation that is founded on reprehensible acts of greed and justified by European ethnocentric colonialism.

TV and radio programs always keep up with the seasons.  I see daily reminders of thanksgiving in commercials for food, and “heart-warming” acts of “good will.”  But what of the tragedy that the Native Americans suffered at the beginnings of this country?  What about the routine extermination of an entire nation?  How about the Trojan Horse that Jeffery Amherst brought to the Native Americans, of blankets infested with smallpox?

And yet today, even as school systems try to right the wrong by including these dark histories in textbooks, children and families are still let out of school for a holiday that they have learned is based on politics, colonialism and ultimately genocide.  We celebrate the beginnings of this country but we celebrate at the expense of every Native American who was killed as a result of the much celebrated Christopher Columbus and all he represented as more Europeans settled colonized this land.

It makes me sad to think that so much of American history is based on political posturing.  Whether its false pretenses for war, justifying the incarceration of Japanese Americans, the dehumanization, violation and enslavement of Blacks, or even the baseless claims that undocumented immigrants steal jobs.  So many of our most heinous crimes against humanity are intentionally manufactured with fear, and carried out with “justified vengeance.”

We celebrate thanksgiving almost in the same way we celebrate adoption.  Thanksgiving and the much dreaded “gotcha day” celebrate new beginnings.  Whether it’s the start of a new country or the start of a new family.  They are days we are supposed to be thankful for.  But what of the struggles, pain, sorrow and much too often corruption that has led to the destruction of a family and subsequent relinquishment?  How about those birth parents whose rights have been trampled for the sake of profit?  I think of the day that I was adopted and all I can think of is the face of my mother as a young woman (I finally see her face now) and the heart-wrenching conclusion she came to.  I think of the countless days of terror she faced at the thought of my departure, and at the paralyzing fear that she was not safe in the walls of her own home with the partner she thought she loved.  I am heartbroken.

So as I feast this Thursday I will not forget what was lost at the founding of this country.  I won’t forget that the celebration of my arrival celebrated the departure from my birth mother.  And I will NEVER forget the pain and fear my mother must have felt leading up to the days of my adoption.  -GS





Post-Reunion

20 11 2009

It’s hard to fathom that it’s been about 5 months since I met my mom in Korea.  The time has flown by, and all the things I wanted to when I returned don’t seem remotely possible anymore.

1.  Learn Korean – Well, I did enroll in a free Korean language course for a few months when I returned.  I got a copy of Rosetta Stone and studied in the morning before work every day.  Posted on my cousins’ and sister’s facebook wall in Konglish, and tried from time to time to write to my mom in Korean too.  But I know that if I really truly want to learn Korean, I will have to move to Korea for a little while.

2.  Keep In Touch – My cousins and sister joined facebook.  We message each other from time to time, and every once in a while I get to see photos of vacations and even marriages.  And I’ve come to realize that my mom keeps up on my life by checking on my facebook photos and status messages.  It’s a tough way to communicate, but it will have to do for now.  I’ve been told by other adoptees that keeping up communication post-reunion is tough.  And I’m realizing how hard it really is to have another family yet not be able to communicate directly.

3.  Sort Out My Feelings – The reality of meeting my mom for the first time is just starting to set in-call it decompression, or whatever.  It has finally happened, and here I am, in the same place as before but with a knowledge of a family that exists in another country.  What does this mean for my relationship with both my families?  How do I feel about not knowing my father’s side of the family?  Will I ever feel like I want to meet him?  Could I ever forgive myself if I asked my mom to help find him after everything he’s put her through?

4.  Resume Life – My life has been on hold ever since I got back…Well, it’s been on hold for a few years, but it’s felt more pronounced lately.  I feel like I need to move on to whatever my next step is in life.  However, I know there is this nagging urge to tackle everything related to my family whether it’s language acquisition, developing new relationships with my family, and maybe even reconciling with my father.

5.  Reality – I know it’s only been a few months since my trip.  But I feel like I’m being pulled in multiple directions, so much so, that I am standing still as families, languages, and complex circumstances play tug of war with my body and mind…

I need some assurance from other KADs that this is normal.  Although I AM part of the KAD community, I feel lost-the same type of lost I felt as a kid.   -GS